Thursday, April 07, 2016

#AtoZChallenge- F is for 'Free Advice'


 
babybunintheoven.com

Getting a seat on public transport or being allowed to jump a queue because you are pregnant is great. But have you had  fellow commuters/bystanders ask you when you are due? And then calculate which trimester you're in and ask which doctor you are seeing and then hint that there are better doctors in that other hospital. Then proceed to size up your belly and give it marks- too big, too small, elongated or wide. Looks like a boy but could be a girl. And then notice you are sipping some sugary drink and remind you that you shouldn't be. And then start describing their whole pregnancy story, even if you did not ask. 

Sigh...


But you know what, the more I think about it now, after having gone through this twice, I feel that it is only because  this whole pregnancy, birthing and post delivery process is a really big deal. Like earth 'shatteringly' big. Everything about us and our bodies and our lives take a turn. And maybe others who have gone through it just want to connect with us and feel obliged to make our passage through it easier. 

And many times even we want all the advice we can get. We want more than we can read online. We want to talk to real people who have been there and done that. 

So my free advice to you is to take all that free advice you get with a pinch of salt. Smile, nod and then check with your doctor. And relax! We women are designed to do this. We rock!

33 comments:

  1. People love others so much that they care for everything of others: their looks, their wealth, their private life... and if you don't listen to their free advice they will create scandals about you!

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    1. Hi Tomichan,

      You said it! They take personal offense if you don't follow the free advice. Thanks for coming by!

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  2. You hit the nail on the head.. "with a pinch of salt.."
    Good going Seena!
    :)
    @yenforblue from
    Spice of Life!

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  3. Great read Seena! love how you ended the piece :-)

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    1. Hey Archana, good to hear from you :)

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  4. Liked it, the pic and the thought specially the last stanza.

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  5. Always good to listen, mull and then decide for yourself whether to take it or not.

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    1. yes. In through one year and out the other... :)

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  6. Freely given, freely discarded. My own way of dealing. :) Really liked the image!

    Nilanjana
    Madly-in-Verse

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  7. A pinch of rock salt, more like :)

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  8. The worst is getting free advice on motherhood from 80 year old mothers.

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    1. My husband's grandma is 90 and fit as a fiddle.. she thinks all our child rearing skills are going to the dogs... :)

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  9. Perfect ending to a brilliant post! Yes, we do rock :) Cheers to womanhood :)

    Cheers,
    Srivi
    The Piscean Me | Twitter

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    1. Thanks Srivi!
      Good to have you back!

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  10. Great advice, Seena. And congrats on the upcoming birth :)
    Many Blessings,
    Lori

    My A2Zs @ As the Fates Would Have It & Promptly Written
    Follow Me (Ravyne) Twitter|Facebook

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    1. Thank you visiting Ravyne,

      I had my two babies and I'm done.. :) This theme is dedicated to all moms and moms to be!

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  11. Pinch of salt is right! (Free advice on salt available on request!!)

    I'm not into all the hype.

    Love your post!

    ff

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  12. Ha ha that free advice will be interesting. :)

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  13. I am so done with this free advice I tell you. Wherever I go or my family goes, people are ready with their advises, as to where should I go, when should I visit the doctor, this is the right time to make a baby, treatment is another thing, etc etc. Now I simply walk away, without saying anything.
    How difficult it is to mind one's own business?

    Cheers
    Geets

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    1. Hi Geets.Been there done that. Fortunately I was far far away in another country and most the free advice was via telephone.. so it was easier to deal with.
      Apparently its almost impossible to mind one's won business, I hear. :)

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  14. Sounds like you have a great attitude towards it!

    @HeatherJacksonW from
    WriteOnSisters - Masterplots from A to Z

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    1. Thanks Heather! thanks for coming by!

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  15. Lol; so true! I have never been pregnant yet but I have CFS and when I was first diagnosed so many people would come up to me with FREE advise :P


    Joy @ The Joyous Living (F: Fritzl Case)

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    1. Oh I'm sure. Take care Joy.

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  16. Women do rock! Without you men would wander aimlessly through life.

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    1. Hi Stephen,

      You are very kind. :)

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  17. That's very good free advice Seena :) The point about so much free advice related to pregnancy is that the mother becomes just that - a mother, a pregnant person. Nobody notices her anymore as an intelligent human being or wants to discuss the book she is reading or her opinion on politics. It just becomes all about the baby. Good luck for the challenge.

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    1. Thanks Kalpanaa :) Very true... the bump blurs everything else.

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  18. I was pregnant 5 years ago and I do not remember much of it today having gone through the turmoil involved in the process of dealing with terrible 2s and 3s. I am sure in another 5 years I will even forget the Terrible 2s and 3s. So it is a miracle when elderly women can recall so much of their pregnancy and baby rearing days and have loads of advices to offer.

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