I had no idea what to do with X for babies and new moms. Then I remembered 'Xanax' from TV advertisements while I lived in the US and that it was used as an anti-anxiety and and anti-depressant medication. So this post was reserved for X and is dedicated to all moms who go through this ugly thing called postpartum depression.
Its interesting, how we give birth and suddenly we are supposed to transform into super-moms.
Until now the baby was inside. And technically our lives didn't change much. But now that the baby is out. Everything is different.
No one told us how awful it is to be sleep deprived, even if we are waking up to the most beautiful thing, every two hours.
No one told us how much it will hurt- everywhere.
Its not someoneelse's baby that you can cuddle for a while and then return. This one is yours. Forever. And suddenly you are not sure how great a parent you are going to be.
And for some moms, this anxiety keeps growing and feelings of sadness and hopelessness continue to increase. They don't feel motherly and joyful and they can't seem to bond with their babies. They just don't feel like getting up and facing the day. Food may not be appealing or they may binge. Nothing seems worthwhile. They are miserable and in extreme cases they feel like ending things.
Moms who feel this way should not feel guilty. They just need to get help.
Love can be hard work sometimes. We can do this.
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Its interesting, how we give birth and suddenly we are supposed to transform into super-moms.
Until now the baby was inside. And technically our lives didn't change much. But now that the baby is out. Everything is different.
No one told us how awful it is to be sleep deprived, even if we are waking up to the most beautiful thing, every two hours.
No one told us how much it will hurt- everywhere.
Its not someoneelse's baby that you can cuddle for a while and then return. This one is yours. Forever. And suddenly you are not sure how great a parent you are going to be.
And for some moms, this anxiety keeps growing and feelings of sadness and hopelessness continue to increase. They don't feel motherly and joyful and they can't seem to bond with their babies. They just don't feel like getting up and facing the day. Food may not be appealing or they may binge. Nothing seems worthwhile. They are miserable and in extreme cases they feel like ending things.
Moms who feel this way should not feel guilty. They just need to get help.
Love can be hard work sometimes. We can do this.
Oh yes, it is a lot of hard work right from the time you conceive ... :-)
ReplyDeleteThanks for coming by Archana, I will see you back in a bit.
DeleteJust Y and Z are left...already addicted to ur posts,so wht after Y and Z?
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DeleteSo true, I almost went crazy after my second one! This topic is still not discussed much in India!
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@KalaRavi16 from
Relax-N-Rave
Me too... I had a tough time.:(
DeleteAny type of depression is difficult. The guilt accompanying the illness makes it worse. It's difficult to understand depression if one hasn't suffered or is suffering themselves. It's an illness that isn't as visual as other illnesses. Good post, Seena.
ReplyDeleteThanks Nicola.
DeleteHard work is right Seena, and it never seems to end!
ReplyDeleteJust a couple of days left for this challenge.. Its been great to have you visit my blog! Thanks a ton for the encouragement.. :)
A touching post on motherhood and am sure many birth givers will get a cue, take heart:)
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Ah yes...PostPartum depressions are becoming quite common these days.. I guess it is also in rise nowadays as everybody expects that the mother should be a super mom handling home, baby, office everything easily.
ReplyDeleteGreat post :)
Srivi, The Piscean Me
A topic that still has some stigma attached in India, not much discussed. All mums are supposed to be maternal naturally, but parenting, as with other things, has to be learnt. Love is hard work, sums it up nicely. Maxed the X, Seena!
ReplyDeleteNilanjana.
Ninja Minion, A-Z 2016
Madly-in-Verse
Thankfully people talk about postpartum a bit more openly now, hopefully resulting in new mom's getting the help they need!
ReplyDeleteThankfully people are open to talking about postpartum depression nowadays... Although I reckon it is still humiliating and scary for mums. :(
ReplyDeleteJoy @ The Joyous Living
A strange thing that I'm discovering is that women at the other end of mothering go through a similar stage when their children have left and they suddenly find themselves without an identity - I'm calling it postnestal depression (from empty nest syndrome!) Leanne @ cresting the hill
ReplyDeleteI have read about that...am sure that's very hard too. Thanks Leanne.
DeleteWhen I heard this word for the first time, I couldn't believe that a feeling as such could actually exist! It was really hard to digest this fact. They never show this and no one tells about it. All they talk, say, promote or show is how beautiful or the most wonderful thing it is in the world. yes it must be, but then this term too is there!
ReplyDeleteThank you for bringing this word !
Cheers
Geets